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Choosing Mens Wedding Bands

Mens wedding bands are one of those traditions that seem to come and go within our culture. It seems like we shy away from things that are important to our parent’s generation, and then our children or their children go back to them.

We want to be better than our parents were, so we rebel against what they did when they got married, the ceremony, the music, the vows, etc. Some of this leads to progress and some just to change for the sake of it. But what goes around usually comes back around.

The traditions of marriage was one of the things that my hippie parents rebelled against. My parents were married, however it was an outdoor wedding in which they wrote their own vows and dressed in non-traditional clothing. My father was against the traditional mens wedding bands so he never wore one. My mother had a wedding ring that was made for her by a friend of theirs that was into making jewelry.

I found it interesting that as my parent’s were getting ready to celebrate their fortieth wedding anniversary my mother decided to go shopping to look at mens wedding bands. She told me that she had noticed that my father was commenting on the wedding rings that other men wore. She thought he regretted not having his own men's wedding band.

She asked me to come with her on the shopping trip. I had recently been married so I knew what was in style for men’s wedding bands in many of the larger jewelry stores. I asked my mom if she wanted to have something that was similar to hers, or if she was going to look for something traditional. She had not thought about this. We decided that we would contact their old friend to see if he was still making jewelry.

After a few telephone calls to old contacts, and looking on the internet telephone directories we were finally able to locate him. We decided to visit his store. He had become quite successful in his jewelry making and had a very nice display.

He was thrilled to see my mom and to find out that she was still wearing the wedding ring he had made. It was one of his first creations. He did not have any men's rings that were similar, but he agreed to make a male styled one for my dad.

My mother wanted a simply band that would have similar detailing as hers. He agreed to make it and to come to the anniversary party and deliver it himself. My father was very pleased with the ring and laughed that after forty years others would now know that he is spoken for.